although I don't see my dad buying mystery things so much as drinking in mystery places (although I think I know where he drinks)
Encourage them to
-set up a power of attorney
-leave a list of all your assets and accounts
- write a will
- make mystery cash withdrawals in your final days
- leave a receipt for a (presumably fake) Rolex for £800 in amongst the papers with no explanation
- hide the watch.... Or something.
It makes things intriguing and head scratching for everyone.
So my dad passed away on Monday, he'd been in hospital for a week and had a few long term things that conjoined with an infection. But hey ho.
I have sort of signed up to do the eulogy (with a back up)
-set up a power of attorney
-leave a list of all your assets and accounts
- write a will
- make mystery cash withdrawals in your final days
- leave a receipt for a (presumably fake) Rolex for £800 in amongst the papers with no explanation
- hide the watch.... Or something.
It makes things intriguing and head scratching for everyone.
So my dad passed away on Monday, he'd been in hospital for a week and had a few long term things that conjoined with an infection. But hey ho.
I have sort of signed up to do the eulogy (with a back up)
I had hoped she'd leave it to my big brother but no, we've both got it. Probably a good idea, he's in his 50s and doesn't believe in vegetables.
Sorry to hear about your dad. That's always shit.
Good tips on confusing those I leave behind though, might start putting those into action
Sorry to hear about your dad. That's always shit.
Good tips on confusing those I leave behind though, might start putting those into action
although I quite like the idea of a treasure hunt, god only knows what they'll get up to when one goes. Although I suppose my mum's unlikely to be up to much.
My brother, sister and I have powers for my parents, I imagine my sister will bear the worst of it being closest. I do need to sort out my will though.
My brother, sister and I have powers for my parents, I imagine my sister will bear the worst of it being closest. I do need to sort out my will though.
The eulogy is ok on the day. Try to make it a bit funny… easier for you and everyone else is grateful.
Your mum is still around, isn’t she? In which case the estate stuff should be fairly straightforward in that it’ll all just go to her?
Your mum is still around, isn’t she? In which case the estate stuff should be fairly straightforward in that it’ll all just go to her?
.... Estate should be relatively easy.. just a few head scratching things to track down.
It could have been REALLY easy if he'd done a tiny bit more admin, or writen a diary of what he did.
Theres one tiny plot of land he bought that nobody really knows what to do with. It's maybe worth £5k does anyone want their own personal glamping area next to a river.?
He seems to have been the worlds worst investor
It could have been REALLY easy if he'd done a tiny bit more admin, or writen a diary of what he did.
Theres one tiny plot of land he bought that nobody really knows what to do with. It's maybe worth £5k does anyone want their own personal glamping area next to a river.?
He seems to have been the worlds worst investor
I potentially do know someone that potentially might. No promises like, but if you have a link or whatever...
Let me know, for the time being I imagine you've got more important things to worry y
in the unexpected small plot of land bequeathed by the person with the mysterious estate
I have, I mean they have their own metal detector too
I have, I mean they have their own metal detector too
I am off to my parents today for the week - I used to go for weekends every now and again but they are definitely pushing on and my mother is also definitely getting forgetful and my sister drops in at theirs every couple of days and that seems a big burden just for her to carry. So I'm trying out a week at theirs - taking laptop, working from a spare room, doing Sunday-Friday to see how it goes. I can be there more for them, it takes the burden off my sister and I don't want to feel that I didn't see enough of them when I had the chance.
We already have POA, I think my sister knows where all the accounts are, though my father may well have set up a few more here or there, they definitely have wills.
Though I do need to chase my father to keep moving on sorting out some shares that were his mother's that no-one knew about until about 4 years ago and they are worth putting effort into getting in his name, but dealing with a special type of extra-convoluted Indian bureacuracy to do that is a loooong and sloooooooooow process.
We already have POA, I think my sister knows where all the accounts are, though my father may well have set up a few more here or there, they definitely have wills.
Though I do need to chase my father to keep moving on sorting out some shares that were his mother's that no-one knew about until about 4 years ago and they are worth putting effort into getting in his name, but dealing with a special type of extra-convoluted Indian bureacuracy to do that is a loooong and sloooooooooow process.
.. there are some things where it's "this just isn't worth the hassle of sorting out" in his.
His accounts details were in an envelope marked "this is what you are looking for"
The cause we figured out. The Rolex is an absolute mystery.
His accounts details were in an envelope marked "this is what you are looking for"
The cause we figured out. The Rolex is an absolute mystery.
I should chase my parents up about power of attorney, they started to get it sorted after all the faff when my mum's godmother needed to go into care (not for very long as it turned out) and she had not done any of that; her only living actual relative was in a care home at the opposite end of Britain.
I think it became apparent that Dad felt he was on the way out, as he did a really good job of making a very good list of all the investments etc. which he handed over in a folder, and made sure my brother had power of attorney in place before he went (for my Mum).
Still all sucks donkey balls though
Still all sucks donkey balls though
Sending condolences and Internet Man Hugs. Me and my sis had POA over my Dad but she did most of the admin as she was still close to him, geographically. Not much I could do from 250 miles away. I too need to sort a will.
They think they should sort it when they need it, I keep telling them that will be too late.
I have been in That London this weekend, just got home. My father twas collected by ambulance on Saturday afternoon after a fall. My mother's account left me unsure if he had a slight graze following a trip, or if his Parkinson's had caused a bleed and he had faller onto a circular saw and shot himself through the head with a crossbow.
As it was the reality was somewhere in between, but I had to call the hospital to find out (he fell over the circular saw and stuck a chunk of wood into his head, lifting a sizeable flap up on his forread).
Old peoples be stubborn.
I have been in That London this weekend, just got home. My father twas collected by ambulance on Saturday afternoon after a fall. My mother's account left me unsure if he had a slight graze following a trip, or if his Parkinson's had caused a bleed and he had faller onto a circular saw and shot himself through the head with a crossbow.
As it was the reality was somewhere in between, but I had to call the hospital to find out (he fell over the circular saw and stuck a chunk of wood into his head, lifting a sizeable flap up on his forread).
Old peoples be stubborn.
which is nice because it gives me the obvious rejoinder "when you are mad it'll be too late".
On the hand other, neither of my parents are ill and they don't nut themselves with bits of wood, or play with circular saws. So you're winning.
On the hand other, neither of my parents are ill and they don't nut themselves with bits of wood, or play with circular saws. So you're winning.
after my aunty refused point blank and ended up in a home with vascular dementia ripping through cash line nobody's business while leaving an absolute administrative catastrophe for my cousin. At the moment we don't need one, but if something happens to my dad then it'd be a fucking nightmare looking after my mum without one.
He does not have a circular saw or crossbow as far as I am aware.
He does not have a circular saw or crossbow as far as I am aware.
and he recently gave me his shotguns, in a surprisingly sensible move.
I do own a crossbow.
I do own a crossbow.
I'm sorry for your loss. Honestly, I think I would prefer to do the eulogy than listen to someone else talk about my dad.
We looked at doing all that for Mum once the dust settled on Dad's unexpected clog-popping, and in the end she's shortcut it all by buying a house jointly with my sister and being live-in childcare. Which, considering none of the other siblings were even asked their opinions, means we're probably shit out of luck when she goes.
I am just home after a week in King's College Hotel, Denmark Hill. the bar service is shit, but you have someone on-call 24/7 for all your other needs. Seems my arthritis has struck out for new territoty and is trying to claim the upper slopes of my left hip; woke up last monday and literally couldn't get out of bed unaided due the pain. Great way to spend the 5th annivrsary of my liver swap! (that's tomorrow)
I am just home after a week in King's College Hotel, Denmark Hill. the bar service is shit, but you have someone on-call 24/7 for all your other needs. Seems my arthritis has struck out for new territoty and is trying to claim the upper slopes of my left hip; woke up last monday and literally couldn't get out of bed unaided due the pain. Great way to spend the 5th annivrsary of my liver swap! (that's tomorrow)
as I wear an opiate patch 24/7, but this blew past it. taking topups of paracetamol and codeine when it gets too much, and a fuckton of antibiotics twice a day for the nest 3-6 weeks
as I understand it from their endless prevaricating, there's the type where you get an infection in the joint which causes fluid buildup (septic arthritis), rather than the tissues getting inflamed. I had those fluids drained off twice, however neither time were they able to culture further growth, although I had already been started on antibiotics in case
the thing with that kind of attack is also that the normal treatment is just slice you open, wash it all out rather than drain it piecemeal, and then start the antibiotics - but because nothing cultured, they didn't want to do that in case it was rheumatological and they caused more irritation that they removed
rheums decided that they don't think it was really their area after just one consult, but they'll have been talking about me in their weekly meeting (yesterday) and if it's decided I need to start going to their clinics for further testing, I'll know about it when my first appointment gets texted to me
as I've been given precisely nothing anti-inflammatory, and the pain is steadily pissing off, can only assume something's working somewhere. if it never happens again that would also be welcome!
the thing with that kind of attack is also that the normal treatment is just slice you open, wash it all out rather than drain it piecemeal, and then start the antibiotics - but because nothing cultured, they didn't want to do that in case it was rheumatological and they caused more irritation that they removed
rheums decided that they don't think it was really their area after just one consult, but they'll have been talking about me in their weekly meeting (yesterday) and if it's decided I need to start going to their clinics for further testing, I'll know about it when my first appointment gets texted to me
as I've been given precisely nothing anti-inflammatory, and the pain is steadily pissing off, can only assume something's working somewhere. if it never happens again that would also be welcome!
good for me.
10th anniversary is Fava Beans and a nice Chianti (thanks to jeffna for the gag)
10th anniversary is Fava Beans and a nice Chianti (thanks to jeffna for the gag)
MrsJam wants us to catch a train from St Pancrass which would mean getting there at 5am on a Friday.
We'd be driving from Bristol, hoping to park on a street somewhere for free and getting a train/tube to St Pancrass.
I'm after some help on knowing where'd be a good place to dump the van, please, from you london/south east types?
We'd be driving from Bristol, hoping to park on a street somewhere for free and getting a train/tube to St Pancrass.
I'm after some help on knowing where'd be a good place to dump the van, please, from you london/south east types?
and we'll put a visitors permit on it.
Then it's 15-20 min on the victoria line.
but that might not be running at 5am (it does on friday night)
Then it's 15-20 min on the victoria line.
but that might not be running at 5am (it does on friday night)
I suspect if we can't get a tube at that time we'll struggle with anything else. I've let mrsjam know and she'll look at other eurostars.
Edit: We're booked in for a slightly later train so we can get the tube there, 11 April. I'll nudge you about it nearer the time. Thank you.
Edit: We're booked in for a slightly later train so we can get the tube there, 11 April. I'll nudge you about it nearer the time. Thank you.
and dates and number plates.. make model of the car.
We can draw you a map of where it's valid. (it's E17)
You might be able to do something in watford that would be easier
We can draw you a map of where it's valid. (it's E17)
You might be able to do something in watford that would be easier
I've signed up with plusnet (I did check other providers but most of them still said I couldn't get silly speed). Very much looking forward to getting rid of virgin, and I don't even have to speak to them cos plusnet did it for me.
for free and for comedy value. I'd have to check with my coworker which streets are free.
https://tfl.gov.uk/modes/driving/ultra-low-emission-zone/ulez-where-and-when
and bought a cooker. It was heavily discounted and then 30% off cos it was an end of line display model. It happened to have been the one I'd have bought of I had the inclination to spend so much on a cooker, so I bought it. £430 for a £1k bit of kit and the current one has been looking like it's going to die for yonks.
because of a child with a compound fracture sustained on a trampoline, not doing anything silly, which was witnessed by the daughter of the woman at Currys who served me.
The thing that traumatized the daughter wasn't seeing the bone, it was the PE teacher screaming.
The thing that traumatized the daughter wasn't seeing the bone, it was the PE teacher screaming.
we got it out, James Hepworth broke his arm almost immediately, it went back in the cupboard and never came out again.
a couple of lads in my year were jumping on a pencil that was stuck in the ground, trying to get it in deeper. It went straight through noswap's foot and out the top of his trainer. I don't remember any other hospitalisations but that's probably more my memory.
because the bayonet fitting is leaking. So now I've got a cooker sat in the living room.
which is brilliant.
I have now installed the new cooker and the induction hob is incredible.
I have now installed the new cooker and the induction hob is incredible.
today at work, so I treated myself to a chelsea bun. now I feel a bit sick, but I have SHOWED MY WORTH.
bought me a Chelsea bun today. Haven’t had one in years.
I have also not been productive in the slightest at work.
I have also not been productive in the slightest at work.
so far today, I have used the word "rectum" numerous times.
each time I silently mouth to myself "rectum? I hardly touched 'em"
each time I silently mouth to myself "rectum? I hardly touched 'em"
Motorhead scene from The Young Ones, with Jammers playing Vyv and stuffing an entire sarnie in his mouth before flicking the v's at the highly amused shop workers.
what are you looking forward to? Anything big planned?
No, me either really, wife's birthday on the 15th so we'll do something for that.
We introduced my daughter's cricket team to 'proper' hard ball stuff this weekend, they bloody loved it. 10/11 year old girls are surprisingly aggressive.
And we went to watch the Cambridge City Women's football match yesterday. A pleasantly family-friendly way to get a couple of pints in the sun on a Sunday; 10/10, would recommend.
No, me either really, wife's birthday on the 15th so we'll do something for that.
We introduced my daughter's cricket team to 'proper' hard ball stuff this weekend, they bloody loved it. 10/11 year old girls are surprisingly aggressive.
And we went to watch the Cambridge City Women's football match yesterday. A pleasantly family-friendly way to get a couple of pints in the sun on a Sunday; 10/10, would recommend.
and learn the guitar.
So far I've bought some headphones for use when running and selected Sanjeev Kolhi as the voice for couch to 5k (which I'll restart after giving up on it last year).
I bought an electric guitar when I lived in Wigan on my own, so around 14 years ago. The amp I bought with it died yonks ago, so I've bought a cable to hook it up to my PC, found a free amp app (guitar rig 7), and a free online course (justinguitar).
I've got a really big project with a deadline of the end March, and the degree I started at Christmas is approaching the 'you need to actually do some work' point, so I'm hoping I'll be able to channel avoiding both of those into something useful.
Edit: I got to the end of series 3 of The Expanse. Phew.
So far I've bought some headphones for use when running and selected Sanjeev Kolhi as the voice for couch to 5k (which I'll restart after giving up on it last year).
I bought an electric guitar when I lived in Wigan on my own, so around 14 years ago. The amp I bought with it died yonks ago, so I've bought a cable to hook it up to my PC, found a free amp app (guitar rig 7), and a free online course (justinguitar).
I've got a really big project with a deadline of the end March, and the degree I started at Christmas is approaching the 'you need to actually do some work' point, so I'm hoping I'll be able to channel avoiding both of those into something useful.
Edit: I got to the end of series 3 of The Expanse. Phew.
partly to train for a trail marathon that was meant to happen last weekend but was postponed til later this month due to fallen trees, and I suspect may now not happen at all
if I ditched the curry and beer I'd probably be one of those wiry middle-aged blokes skipping across the landscape, but unfortunately beer and curry are tasty and big and clever
if I ditched the curry and beer I'd probably be one of those wiry middle-aged blokes skipping across the landscape, but unfortunately beer and curry are tasty and big and clever
I mean, it is that easy, but I'm fucked if I'm going to do that!
I was entered into a hard 60k ultra in mid March, but training thus far has not gone even slightly to plan, so I've dropped down to the 22k and will have a nice day, rather than half killing myself and probably missing cutoffs anyway
I have however, entered the local very hard 45k in July, as it's its 10th anniversary and July is hopefully far enough away to get my arse in gear
I was entered into a hard 60k ultra in mid March, but training thus far has not gone even slightly to plan, so I've dropped down to the 22k and will have a nice day, rather than half killing myself and probably missing cutoffs anyway
I have however, entered the local very hard 45k in July, as it's its 10th anniversary and July is hopefully far enough away to get my arse in gear
Have you always enjoyed running or did you have to push through to a point where it became more enjoyable?
There have certainly been plenty of enjoyable times. And it's where I have met most of my friends in Welly
There was probably a point where it became easier, but of course, as you get better, you try to go faster/further/higher so the amount of effort doesn't necessarily decrease, but you get much better.
There was certainly a point where it was pleasant to go out for cruisey social runs with friends. These days I'm fighting age, injury and post-Covid malaise. And hoping to get back to cruisey again. Certainly will never be as fast as I was 5-10 years ago though
There was probably a point where it became easier, but of course, as you get better, you try to go faster/further/higher so the amount of effort doesn't necessarily decrease, but you get much better.
There was certainly a point where it was pleasant to go out for cruisey social runs with friends. These days I'm fighting age, injury and post-Covid malaise. And hoping to get back to cruisey again. Certainly will never be as fast as I was 5-10 years ago though
once you can go a mile without stopping, it all becomes a lot easier and the feeling like death gets replaced by nice happy endorphins. It's all incremental after that, either to do longer distances or to get faster at the same ones. Some of us like scoff just forget to stop at a reasonable point.
I'm swimming a couple of times a week at the moment, it's not quite enough.
We saw Venus, Jupiter and Mars on the way home with the moon looking very shiny. Beautiful evening too.
We saw Venus, Jupiter and Mars on the way home with the moon looking very shiny. Beautiful evening too.
Unlike a shitload of people I know
*may have involved at least 35 km of walking
*may have involved at least 35 km of walking
i need to get some sort of proper fitness regime going, getting too fat. I have started pilates though
currently once a week coaching kids' cricket is basically all my exercise.
in that London yesterday, naturally I was expecting much train fuckery but not only was the train bang on time, it was one of the Siemens 700 class which I've never seen on the Kings Lynn line before.
Naturally I only went for the social side of things, plus the free bar at the end of course. Great food though, and the whole event was unintentionally hilarious to me even before the first beers at lunch.
Corporate event? Boo. Social event? Very much yay.
Naturally I only went for the social side of things, plus the free bar at the end of course. Great food though, and the whole event was unintentionally hilarious to me even before the first beers at lunch.
Corporate event? Boo. Social event? Very much yay.
One is a step up in my chain, one is a step up into another function.
I fully anticipate being knocked back on both but it is nice to show willing. I can’t leave because the nursery is subsidised @ 50% and paid through salary sacrifice so it is tax free.
I fully anticipate being knocked back on both but it is nice to show willing. I can’t leave because the nursery is subsidised @ 50% and paid through salary sacrifice so it is tax free.
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we are in SW scotland at the moment.. and bloomin heck it was windy this morning. calmed down a bit now but fun an games.
lots of roads closed, the place we are supposed to be staying in tonight has no power so we are staying at my mums.
we are in SW scotland at the moment.. and bloomin heck it was windy this morning. calmed down a bit now but fun an games.
lots of roads closed, the place we are supposed to be staying in tonight has no power so we are staying at my mums.
v.scary indeed but thankfully the house only lost 3 tiles and a downpipe. Last we spoke he still had no power.
it's a Fun Place for Serious Weather Watching™
https://earth.nullschool.net
https://earth.nullschool.net
It's ace, isn't it? Watching that massive cyclone head across the Gulf of Mexico a couple of months ago was quite something.
that I can't tell if you mean that's the first time you've ever bookmarked a page, or the first bookmark on a new computer, or that you've had it for ages, been reminded about it and promoted it to the front, or you've had it so long it's made it to the front what with all the other deletions and additions you've made. Or A N Other interpretation of your words.
And I like it so much over moved it's so it's the first on my bookmarks bar, which is heavily curated and changes regularly so that it's not wider than my screen.
is that it seems that during the 90s we temporarily forgot how to build secure roofing
why waste the effort if it won't happen again?
We had a fire engine in the street because a tree was falling onto a house. The kids were most disappointed it wasn't a fire.
from the start of 2025 payroll is being handled by them. it is first payday of 2025 today. reader, we have not been paid.
I need a new job.
I need a new job.
though I'm not sure I'll get through the first 3 seasons by the time they leave Amazon.
edit: their pronunciation of "Amos" is doing my head in.
edit: their pronunciation of "Amos" is doing my head in.
I'll probably not bother if I miss the end. Though I am making good progress.
how the hell are you supposed to pronounce Amos?
Cos in the Expanse they pronounce Amos exactly how I would...
Cos in the Expanse they pronounce Amos exactly how I would...
Not Mos like in Musk.
Source: my nephew Amos and Amos Brearly from Emmerdale Farm.
In other telly news the new series of Gladiators is great. They've taken it up a notch from the last series, they seem to be having more fun with it and it's brilliant.
Source: my nephew Amos and Amos Brearly from Emmerdale Farm.
In other telly news the new series of Gladiators is great. They've taken it up a notch from the last series, they seem to be having more fun with it and it's brilliant.
I don't think of Mos from Mos Eisley, or even Mos from Mos Def. Mos in Musk is probably the one example I'd think closest, so that's no help
either way, it's the future and they all have weird Belter accents on top of being American, so it's not going to sound the same as Yorkshire circa 1981
either way, it's the future and they all have weird Belter accents on top of being American, so it's not going to sound the same as Yorkshire circa 1981
because it's just wrong enough for it to break my concentration/suspension of disbelief, and that's annoying.
is from London, so I reckon she's probably saying it right. In my head I say it like Emmerdale, but I'm from Yorkshire, so everyone sounds odd to me anyway.
but I'm also from Yorkshire and, obviously, the Yorkshire pronunciation is correct.
Who knew there could be variation in such a small word?
(Obviously I know, but this one hadn't occurred to me)
(Obviously I know, but this one hadn't occurred to me)
for the sake of balance :D
not gonna listen, I already have voices for the Expanse people in my head and this would ruin it
not gonna listen, I already have voices for the Expanse people in my head and this would ruin it
It's not Rigby cos the typing is too good
Not pootle because not enough sarcasm
Not flanflinger because he'd use his own name
None of the Edinburgers, they've got better things to do
Backrubslut rarely drinks enough to vomit in his own mouth
I'm out of ideas.
Not pootle because not enough sarcasm
Not flanflinger because he'd use his own name
None of the Edinburgers, they've got better things to do
Backrubslut rarely drinks enough to vomit in his own mouth
I'm out of ideas.
I reached out my right arm to help break my fall, but was immediately shot by leftist radicals. It could happen to you.
they never finish the job. okay, hold still - this won't hurt (me) a bit...
treat yourself.
make sure you are not on a work teams call though first.
make sure you are not on a work teams call though first.
OK. I'm off Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Amazon and I've been of the opinion that Musk is a bellend for years. I divested all my dogecoins years ago.
Are Netflix Nazis? what else do I need to cancel?
Are Netflix Nazis? what else do I need to cancel?
fairly normal CEOs, who do wield a disproportionate amount of power in the media sector now, but have used some of it for good purposes and don't, as far as we know, do all of the awful things
though I'm sure that'll come out in due course
though I'm sure that'll come out in due course
profiteers, definitely; the subs are going up again - 200% in the same time that inflation's gone up 33%. they could probably save a few pence reusing sets and costumes in second or third seasons of some shows, instead of always making a new one every time...
At this point if a company isn't strip mining my wallet it's basically unique
which is, of course, the basic digital strategy followed by Uber, AirBnB etc - accumulate a huge war chest from funding rounds, use this to subsidise your own business and run at a loss, undercut all your competitors and force them out of business, then hike prices back up to a value that would be uncompetitive if there were any competitors
"hey why don't we charge more for a shittier service?"
Which is worth it for Slow Horses and Phineas and Ferb. I reckon I could cope with as breaks though
if only they put the ads in TV shows where the shows planned for them to be; instead you get a random fade-out halfway through a sentence
I don't mind the length of ad breaks on Amazon - I'm watching Picard and it's mostly one ad for another Amazon show.
I've started The Expanse instead of continuing to s2.
I was in hospital with My Troubles™ back in 2020 when it was released, and one episode was way outside what I expected or could handle at that time - honestly not what I expected from the show and just thinking about it makes me feel awful. shame, it sounds like there's some great stuff in the later shows but I can't let go of that bit...
enjoying the first Expanse book right now, I think I'd also have issues watching that depending on how accurate to the book they made parts of it but this way I can enjoy it just fine
enjoying the first Expanse book right now, I think I'd also have issues watching that depending on how accurate to the book they made parts of it but this way I can enjoy it just fine
Red Letter media on youtube and Bernd Schneider on Ad Astris Scientia told me all I'lk ever need to know about Picard.
is that Ty Franck and Daniel Abraham what wrote the books are heavily involved. There are differences, but some of that just comes down to what works better on a TV show vs. the books where people etc are introduced much more slowly. And the casting is just frigging perfect